Marriage Matters | Be my Valentine
by: Ashton Cude
Happy Valentine's Day, friends! I've always loved Valentine's Day. There may not be another day that captures my aesthetic better than one which celebrates pink, flowers, sparkles, and all things heart-shaped. Today I'm sharing simple, affordable ways to make Valentine's Day special for you and your spouse. During our first year of marriage, I found it so hard not to compare us to other couples. Not because I was envious of what they had, but because when you get married...everything is new! There's no manual to follow, so you naturally look to other couples to see what they're doing. The problem is, that often leads to feelings of inadequacy. Below are ways that Andrew and I have found to be romantic and celebrate one another without living beyond our means. Enjoy!
Breakfast in bed: Our first Valentine's Day together, when we were just dating, Andrew and I had a huge fight. Coincidentally, that is also the day Andrew realized he wanted to marry me. We realized that no matter the issue we were facing, we wanted to be with each other. Unbeknownst to me at the time, he went home that day and started ring shopping. That morning we had gone to get heart-shaped donuts, so you better believe that my tradition-loving heart is getting heart donuts every year to commemorate that day! Breakfast can be a sweet and romantic way to serve your spouse, as well as enjoy some peaceful, restful time together. Whichever spouse is the morning person (not me!), make your love breakfast and enjoy it together while snuggled under the covers. Everyone knows breakfast foods = romance.
Small, thoughtful gift: Set a $20 limit and get one another a small, thoughtful gift. This is something we've done every year since we've been together and it's always fun to find things your spouse would enjoy and see what they picked out for you. People who aren't natural gift-givers may start sweating at this suggestion (ahem...my husband), but all you have to do is think about who your spouse is and what they like. It's really that simple. To give an example, this year I got Andrew a biography of one of his childhood heroes, John Wayne. He got me a pajama set because I've watched New Girl 100 times and want to be Zooey Deschanel. We also always opt for funny cards rather than sappy ones. Nothing fancy, just a little token to show your spouse they are known and loved...without blowing the budget out of the water.
Movie night in: Order pizza from your favorite place, get candy and popcorn from good ole' Dollar Tree, hit up Redbox or Netflix, and settle in for a cozy movie night. You can make it like a date night and dress up, or you can enjoy the luxury of kicking back in your sweats...whatever floats your romance boat! Make a point to stay off your phones and just enjoy time with one another. And since you're watching at home...it won't hurt if you do a little smooching during the end credits.
No matter what your plans are, we hope your Valentine's Day is full of love. And just a note to all my single ladies...please don't let this day get you down. Some of my favorite Valentine's Days have been spent with girlfriends just celebrating one another. Valentine's Day is all about celebrating the love in your life, no matter where it comes from. Whatever your relationship status, I hope you all have the happiest heart day!